THE
DIVINE GENESIS AND HUMAN DEVELOPMMENT OF INTEGRATIONAL SPIRITAN MOVEMENT FOR TRUE GLOBAL FELLOWSHIP HAS
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“MODUS OPERANDI” meaning ‘THE OPERATIONAL CODE’ - “ET” and “MODUS VIVENDI” meaning ‘THE CODE OF CONDUCT’
FOR ALL BONA-FIDE MEMBERS OF INTEGRATIONAL SPIRITAN MOVEMENT FOR NOW AND FOR
ALL TIMES WORLDWIDE UNDER NORMAL TEMPERATURE
& PRESSURE ARE EMBEDDED HERE
PROLOGUE
I once met three philosophers arguing about the nature of God. The
Christian theologian among them insisted on the Trinitarian doctrine, the
Oriental Christian emphasised that the Holy Spirit proceeded only from the
Father whereas the Roman Christian argued that the Holy Spirit proceeded from
both the Father and the Son!
I laughed at them. They got angry. In unison, they demanded to know why I
was laughing them to scorn. I said, “Why not bother yourselves about the
things in the world that you can comprehend? Leave God alone!” One of them
interjected, “Why do you say that, are you wiser than the Holy Church fathers
and the great theologians that handed down these doctrines?”
“Thank you very much for being truthful. You just called them ‘doctrines’
and that’s exactly what they are! You
can’t arrive at any meaningful conclusion in your argument since all we can
ever know or say about him is, “God
exists!” And what that really means is this: “God is the Almighty Being that
created everything that exists in the universe. Anything else anybody says or
we say is puerile, futile and simply mundane guesswork!” I concluded.
In I.S.M. we do not theorise about what we have no existential answers
that can satisfy human reasoning! We limit ourselves to provable and rational concepts,
no mysteries, no dogmas and no doctrines. You are very welcome to disproving
anything we posit, provided you can defend your position convincingly, and
carry along seventy-five per cent of humankind. We are okay
CHAPTER 1:
AN OVERVIEW
i.
Oh! Mortal
man, why do you pride yourself with such titles as “ Homo sapiens”, “His or Her
Excellency”, “His Lordship or His Grace”, His Royal Highness” and finally the
“Lord of the Material Universe”, when you can never hear better than a common
bat, nor see better than the eagle?
ii.
What
achievement has any man made that is not built on what has already been
provided by Nature? Just name one. Is it not enough to humble us down to our
knees in respect to whatever put us here on planet earth?
iii.
What
is it that took care of our forefathers and ensured that they survived to rear
us the best they could? Who protected us in our mothers’ wombs and those deadly
infant diseases that killed some of our peers so that we survived to flaunt our
high resounding titles.
iv.
Now
let us all bow our heads. Be silent for a while and listen to Nature
communicate wisdom in its simplest forms. When you hear the cock that crows at
night, starting from about 3.00am
till it is 6.00 a.m. marking
out the hours while you sleep, what is it saying? -- It is thanking its Creator
for another day. And secondly, it is obeying Him by doing its duty twenty-four
hours a day marking out the hours of each day for all other animals and you,
man, the lord of the material universe as you choose to call yourself!
v.
It
does it regularly and has been doing so before you, oh little creature copied
him to make your wristwatches in an attempt to supplant him, but you have
failed. The cock is more precise than the best chronometer you ever invented or
will soon manufacture! For one thing, it does not need a battery to operate nor
does it need servicing!
vi.
So
man, learn to imitate the birds that wake each morning chirping their morning
prayers of thanks, while pleading to the Lord for their daily bread.
vii.
What of trees that daily release oxygen for
your use? Have you ever gone to the gas station to purchase human fuel, either
air or water? How much air and water do you use each hour of your life? Who
provides and purifies them?
viii.
Did
you thank the Creator of this universe for these two items only? When will you
do so? Do it now! Stop at this page, kneel down and reverence whatever put you
here on planet Earth
ix.
From
today when the birds start their own morning hymns, oh you little man, join
them. That is why He feeds them on a daily basis, but you have to struggle and
suffer or steal to have food on an irregular basis besides our human greed that
makes it difficult for his fellow men to even have a little!
x.
Whatever
or whoever created us all must have put some laws to govern whatever breathes
his air and drinks his water, for there are accidents and suffocation when
these elementary functions are performed inappropriately.
xi.
We
must eat to live, drink to survive, sleep to rest and procreate to save our
species from extinction. Each of these functions we perform from generation to
generation, educated or not, civilised or not pious or crooked! It wonderful
isn’t it.
xii.
Order and
grace, beauty and serenity adorn His creations wherever you find them in their
natural habitats unperturbed by the most destructive animal; man! So let us
relent!
xiii.
The
voice of wisdom speaks in all His creations but only the wise can hear them!
Can you interpret the language of honeybees or bring fellow men to march in
formation like the soldier ants without coercion and spending some funds on
training programmes, which the ants never do even at birth!
xiv.
These
and similar precision occurrences like sunrise and sunset should make us more
pious and respectful but what do we find? Arrogance or buffoonery intoxicates
most of us.
xv.
The
wisdom of the Creator shines forth everyday as the sunlight, but we prefer to
walk around like blind men vaunting our ignorance of His natural laws that
govern our very existence.
xvi.
So how
do you assist a blind that does not see properly but claims that he is okay and
is not in need of your help, as he will never accept that he does not know
everything!
xvii.That is the problem with our human race. Other animals
are ready to learn from their parents and obey them diligently, only man claims
to know when he does not! When shall we ever learn as other baby animals learn?
xviii.
The time is
now, not tomorrow, not next month, not next year but this very moment. How does
one do exactly that, you may ask?
xix.
Don’t ask me,
Kenez; rather ask King Solomon, the Wise! Go and read and memorise 1st
Kings, Chapter 3, verses 6-15. Or for an elaborate treatise, find the complete
bible edition and read chapter 9 verses 1- 18 of the WISDOM OF SOLOMON.
Always use the Good News Bible Edition for all
references!
USE ABOVE SPACE FOR YOUR PERSONAL NOTES
CHAPTER
2:
PRACTICAL
LESSONS FROM NATURE
i.
Open your eyes and look at newborn babies.
Study them for a whole week. Who taught them to cry? Why do they cry? Watch
them during breastfeeding. Who taught them to suck properly? Did you, or did their
mothers teach them? Answer me, Oh man!
ii.
Look
at babies everywhere, you were once like that, so learn to be humble and thank
your father and mother if they are still alive! You were a helpless animal that
a cat or a dog could have eaten raw, were it not for their paternal and
maternal care!
iii.
There
from, O arrogant creature learn the virtue of gratitude, it does not hurt you
nor will it cost you anything more than to always say a loud “Thank You” all
the rest of your short span of existence on this planet
iv.
Carry
a baby and note that it looks you straight in the eyes and either smiles or
begins to cry. If the latter, be sure you are a bad person or you looked
aggressive. Babies are the best judges of character! So, learn to drop your
worries and frowns when you approach others in life.
v.
Everyone else you meet has personal problems
but they do not advertise them all the time, so why that scowl on your face?
Smile at difficulties and so learn forbearance, tolerance and equanimity! There
are virtues that you will need all the time!
vi.
Babies have weight as you must have noticed,
and this increases as they feed well and grow. What makes them grow? How do
they learn to sit, crawl, stand, and then walk? Answer me, oh Homo sapiens!
Lord of the material universe!
vii.
Why does an object fall to the ground? Even
when you throw objects far into the air, they return to the earth on which you
stand. You may simply answer that it is because of the force of gravity, as you
must have learnt by rote memory far back in elementary school.
viii.
But that answer was not so easy for the first
men and women on earth! Prehistoric men once worshiped that magnetic
phenomenon. So learn to investigate nature, discover new facts and share your
knowledge with others. It is a fundamental lesson of life!
ix.
The ground you stand on carries your weight,
no matter how large and heavy you think you are! All those heavyweight
wrestlers you watch on television all walk on the same ground. Those heavy
trucks that compete with trains in carrying loads are also resting on the same
ground! It carries all of us besides all the tall buildings man has constructed
everywhere in the world. Have you ever wondered what would happen if the earth
for once refused to carry our weight?
x.
We bury dead men and animals in the ground to
avoid their stench and the epidemics they could cause! Yet has it at any time
rejected to accept more corpses? Why? Answer me, the self-styled “Man, the summit of
creation”
xi.
It is no use answering titles one cannot
defend, nor lumber around under the euphoria of crammed information gathered
from books and school curricula. Put on your thinking cap and attempt an
answer.
xii.
The wisdom of the Almighty Creator fashioned
all those macrocosms and microcosms and assigned them eternal duties which they
religiously obey at all times, come rain, come sunshine! So have you found out
yours? If not, when will you begin? Start now. It is yet early morning on
creation day for you! Make an honest inquiry. Imitate them. Therefore in life
don’t expect a “thank you” for doing your duties!
xiii.
Those macrocosms that serve your purposes;
the sun, the moon, water, air and the ground never demanded any from you! They
all co-operate to grow the crops from which we prepare the meals at our dinner
tables daily! Or are you the one who produces the grains, tubers, roots and
fruits that wild animals, birds and humans consume?
xiv.
I have not forgotten that the breast milk is
by far better than any infant formula that any scientist can ever produce! The
same goes for the natural and clean water collected during a heavy rainfall.
Its purer, as it contains all the minerals the animal body needs, both wild and
domesticated, including man himself!
xv.
When last did you eat an egg laid by a
non-poultry-raised hen, for example a guinea fowl? Or to make it simpler, taste
a sample of wild eggs and that of poultry eggs, and you will be amazed that
despite all the veterinary care and husbandry of agricultural farmers, the wild
eggs taste not only better but also contain more concentrates of the nutrients
that build the body! Ask any qualified scientist in that field!
xvi.
Who ensures all these? Can any created being
human or non-humans perform these feats?
If your answer is positive please tell us where you got your
materials! If negative, then bow down
and worship Nature or whoever produces them for our enjoyment!
xvii. The focus is
still on babyhood. You have many more lessons to learn from infants! Do you
remember who carried you about when you were small? Ask your parents. Find him
or her and please give a big hug or a large gift in appreciation!
xviii.
Your weight alone must have deformed the
natural structure of your babysitter's figure. The spinal column, the backbones
or the waist of such a one must have altered its structure, no matter how
infinitesimal! Ask physiotherapists. You caused that; and therefore you owe an
apology or a “thank you”! Which do you prefer?
xix.
All go to show the interdependence of created
beings. House helps; stewards, cooks, maids and servants must be valued and
appreciated! We need each other to grow, mature and enjoy life to the fullest.
The name of the game of life is; “you rub
my backside and I rub yours!”
xx.
The innocence of nudity is the most important
lesson the baby teaches. Why do we need clothes if not to cover our guilt and
the embarrassment that it enunciates? Try to regain your innocence if you can,
however note that shame or societal disdain is what we deserve as the just
punishment for disobeying any natural laws!
CHAPTER 3:
SOME INTERNATIONAL LANGUAGES
i.
Did you know that you were once a linguist?
Yes, you were once an international orator and everyone listened and reacted to
your famous speeches! You must have lost that talent or suppressed it. But you
can reclaim it if you really want to be an international sage!! Read on, if you
do!
ii.
Visit the
home of a couple that has a newborn and quietly observe everyone in the house
for an hour when the baby is wide-awake. Relax. Just watch mummy, daddy,
children and others in the house! This is a very important practical. Don’t
miss it. Do this before reading any
further, please!
iii.
What did you
see in the home you visited? Who was dishing out orders to everyone else? Who
was the parade commander? Who was obeyed and must be obeyed? And finally what
did you learn about children and their ability to order everyone around them.
Do they get immediate obedience or compliance? ----Yes, they always do!
iv.
You were once
an autocratic baby like the one you observed! You gave commands and everyone
came running to obey you. At times you even caused a quarrel between daddy and
mummy when there was a delay in compliance to your demands!
v.
Am I making
any useful remarks? Of course, I am! The world of the infant is full of “give me, carry me, feed me, change my wet
pants, cant you see I am hot? - do something about it, cant you feel the cold?-
common, cover me with a blanket,.. etc”
vi.
Some of that
language still remains in everyone’s subconscious mind and we occasionally
demand immediate gratification. If you do so, it shows that you are still a
baby when you are among adults. So stop it now! Selfishness or egocentricity is
childish behaviour! Drop any vestiges of it remaining with you today!
vii.
But that is
not all. Did you also assimilate the love showered on the infant by all around,
including yourself? Atimes, while you were there, you felt like scolding the
mum for delaying the prompt breastfeeding of the baby. Did you?
viii.
That is
called “empathy”. You felt for the helpless infant and wanted to assist in the
little way you could. You were right then, but do you do so nowadays helping or
assisting others in this selfish country and world that we live in? Sympathy is
an international language!
ix.
Did you
notice that even daddy was ready to fight for the baby? He was ready to abandon
the love he has for the wife just to please the infant. Why? I need an answer
from you, the proud Homo sapiens!
x.
It is called
international justice! The weak are always to be defended or protected before
the strong. It is a natural code written in our minds but we sooner than later
stifle it, replacing it with cultural stereotypes and ethnic prejudices.
Re-learn it today!!
xi.
My dear, I am
not giving you any new codes of conduct. No! These have always been there! I am
only unearthing them for mankind to become conscious of the international
language that everyone once spoke and understood.
xii.
Crying is an
international language that translates thus:
I am in difficulty… I need your assistance to get out of this sad situation,
please help me… will someone listen to me? Did you get my message? How many people
have you rescued in the past week?
xiii.
However note
that sometimes teardrops could indicate extreme pleasure, unexpected joy or
negative emotional upset! But you always tell the difference by assessing the
cues in the immediate environment of the one concerned!
xiv.
Smiling is an
international language, and converts to laughter when doubled or multiplied in
geometric proportions! Both translate into;“
I am pleased at the moment,.. thank you for the pleasant stimulus,.. it is
hilarious here, why don’t you join us and laugh! Am I making any sense to
you? Do not say yes when you really mean no.
xv.
Frowning is
an international language, which when serious becomes a scowl, threat or hatred
and a prelude to mischief. In all your life avoid it. It does you no good. Ask
Cain, the brother of Abel in the Christian Bible! He is a professor in that
subject. He graduated in it and became the first murderer in the history of
mankind, as we are told!
xvi.
Music is an
international language! And when dramatised turns into various types of
dancing! Good ones cut across ethnic, religious and national boundaries. All
domesticated and wild animals, especially snakes listen to and enjoy good
music. Ask any zookeeper! Even criminals enjoy their own kind of music.
xvii.
Romance is an
international language! Falling in love cuts across all human demarcations. It
has even resulted in peace accords, unions and festivals as well as murders,
wars and enmity!
xviii.
There are
many other international languages! Learn to cultivate the good ones and
minimise the use of any bad language like scolding, shouting, gossiping,
backbiting, slandering and finally maligning others!
xix.
Two other
international languages are; urinating and defecating! As an infant we all did
it wherever and whenever pressed, but we were also trained to postpone or delay
them till we get to the appropriate places for doing so. Have you been doing
these rightly?
xx.
Finally, this
is definitely the one that runs haywire for immature people! Libido or sexual
energy, its profitable use or misuse!! Promiscuity is bad in concept and
unhealthy / futile in execution; anywhere, any day, anytime. Control your
passions! The ability to do so separates mature rational human beings from all
infantile, hedonistic and regressed ones! Which are you? Adieu!
SPACE FOR PERSONAL NOTES
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CHAPTER 4:
LECTURES FROM A TODDLER
i.
Have you ever
heard of Sigmund Freud, Jean Piaget, Erik Erickson or Lawrence Kohlberghas?
These are well known research scientists that spent years, studying children in
minute detail. So you need to get into a library or consult a current
encyclopaedia to appreciate the wisdom contained in this chapter!
ii.
We may take
off with the toddler. Do you remember some of the things you did at that age? I
can only summarise some of them here; you
sucked your thumb so much that you had to be punished to stop that 'naughty'
habit. Again as you dropped that one, you began to babble monosyllabic words
and very much later you were able to pronounce your first meaning words, which
were; mama, dada, ada, aha aba, then -mummy, daddy, etc followed gradually!
iii.
But the
greatest achievement was what Jean Piaget called; the acquisition of
pre-operational concepts of mass, volume, height, and depth. But let's take
thumb sucking first, which the father of psychoanalysis, Sigmund Freud
elaborated on in great detail. It contains so much on personality formation! It
is normal for children to suck, for they even started it right there in the
womb long before they were delivered!
iv.
Thumb sucking
relieves an infant’s tension and stimulates the sensitive membranes of the
mouth pleasantly. In this respect the thumb is to the infant what the cigarette
is to the adult. When children are tired, sleepy, hungry, sick, or are
teething, their finger sucking increases.
v.
Scolding a
child for thumb sucking will make him feel guilty, which he will try to relieve
by more thumb sucking. This is counter-productive! It is more effective to keep him well fed and
to provide him with adequate toys to occupy his hands and fingers.
vi.
So newly weds
should take note. You could be damaging your infant’s future personality by
your ignorant enforcement of age-old discipline that was only done in error and
is really a cultural proscription!
vii.
For cigarette
smokers, you now know that you are regressing to a toddler's method of reducing
tension or anxiety, thereby informing all around you that you still immature.
This is equally applicable to ladies who always delight in chewing gums! A word
is enough for the wise!
viii.
However the
most important lesson to learn from the infant at this time is to face your
tensions as a mature adult and seek for help if need be! Don’t resort to
infantile behaviour!! Excessive drinking is akin to this problem. Alcohol never
solved any problems, rather it adds to it!
ix.
The next
lesson is what Freud called “fixations”. “Fixation
at the oral stage leads to extreme
selfishness” states Sigmund Freud. This naturally leads the child onto
seeking pleasurable things in later life, thereby developing as an egocentric
personality! Sensuality, avarice and gluttony follow in the wake of retaining
this misdemeanour!
x.
The next
fixation is that of the anal stage, when the child derives pleasure from
controlling the anus. Due to routine you may not have noticed that defecation
is pleasurable! It relieves tension. But in infancy the toddler notices that
he/she can control the parents by inappropriate release or withholding of bowel
movements!
xi.
In later
life, those that resort to this regression of infantile manoeuvre develop
stingy personality traits. They tend to hoard in order to control the relevant
others' behaviour! Traders take note! When this trait combines with the
previous one; greed, stealing and robbery are the triplets that are
delivered!
xii.
Stingy parents, please realise that your
marriage partner is unduly being stressed by you regressed fixation! Some
sexual relationships suffer because of this subconscious manipulation learnt in
early life!! I have treated many cases of this type in my clinical practice.
xiii.
Bosses in
offices, Principals of schools, Pastors in parishes, Bursars or Purchasing
Officers in various organisations should take a good note of this and
re-evaluate their behaviour henceforth!
xiv.
The next
lecture from that toddler is the fixation at the phallic stage! Most infants
derive pleasure from caressing their sex organs early in life. Some parents
notice this and reclaim their kids before much damage is done. Others ignore
this or do not even take notice!
xv.
In reality
everyone indulged temporarily in masturbation early in life to relieve
tensions. However some carry it to teenage, adolescence, and even to adulthood!
This results in promiscuity! It is as simple as that! Retrain yourself if you
are involved or consult a sex therapist!
xvi.
By now you
may think that all these are psychological jargons, but I assure you that they
are not! Sigmund Freud spent all his life after medical college studying these
and he is an authority in this area!
xvii.
That one did
not take notice of what one did, as a child does not translate to that they
never occurred! Observe your own kids from now on and you will be grateful to
that great psychoanalyst!
xviii.
The hurdles
that every toddler has to cross to develop into a well-balanced personality have
been highlighted for you to begin a sanitation exercise within yourself!
Consult a clinical psychologist for remedies!
xix.
The
integrated personality that we all desire consists in passing those stage in
life appropriately assisted by our cultural norm and mores. Parental awareness
of these stages is hereby canvassed for. Religion often comes to the rescue,
but with varying degrees of success. Some develop scruples or other
depersonalisation syndromes!
xx.
A normal
heterosexual relationship is hard to attain but it is achievable! Don’t give
up! Make the best use of the knowledge your garnered from this chapter to raise
your lovely children and leave the rest for the Almighty Creator of both you
and you kids!
CHAPTER 5:
WINDOWS OF
THE SOUL
i.
Before you misinterpret this subheading, note
that it is only a continuation of “ Lectures from a toddler” but from a
different perspective. As I was typing this on my computer it occurred to me
that we humans perform similar tasks as the hard disc, floppy diskette or CD-ROM.
ii.
All computers need windows to function, and
so does the human central nervous system. I quickly remembered also that in the
science of ergonomics machines are made to fit human operators. Then the really
big one is that electronic engineers studied the human brain, how it functions
in everyday life, and copied it to invent the computer itself!
iii.
The eyes, ears, nose, mouth and the skin of
the infant allow it to communicate with the external environment just as the
keyboard, the mouse, and modems permit the computer to appreciate the “garbage
in, garbage out “ paradigm!
iv.
So it is with the human soul! It has many
windows with which it interacts with, controls and responds to both the
internal and the external environments of the human body!
v.
We feel hot, cold, warm, and have tactile
responses because nature’s gift of feeling is a window of the soul! So also are
the other windows you may observe in the body of our little lecturer, “the
toddler”.
vi.
A brand new hard disc, “the C drive”, is
blank until programs are fed into it! And so is the new-born / babe's mind, its
early responses and later in life its traits, mannerisms, and ultimately its
good and bad behaviours!
vii.
Has it ever occurred to you that differences
in children are due to a variety of programmers working on its “CPU”, by the
very same ways different soft wares fed into a computer determines the
behaviours and services it can render?
viii.
So, we intend to reflect on how we influence
the making of saints or criminals in our family interactions with toddlers in
this chapter! In reality, we are the products of parental influences, cultural,
ethnic and religious stereotypes and social prejudices! This is the hard truth!
ix.
If you rear a set of identical male twins,
one in a prison yard and the other in a monastery. What would you expect at the
end of twenty-five years? Or, on the other hand, you rear a set of female
identical twins, one in a convent and the other in a brothel, what will the
results of your experiment behaviour-wise?
x.
That is exactly what happens to us all within
our short life span of home upbringing by responsible or irresponsible adults
around us! Make no mistakes about it; stealing, aggressiveness, telling lies,
cleanliness, carefulness, loyalty promiscuity etc are all programmed
behaviours!
xi.
So we must be wary and conscious of what we
do or fail to do in the presence of toddlers, teenagers and adolescents! They
constitute the best imitators and artistes in the world. The irony of it being
that they take it for real and the beat way to survive in he socio-cultural
milieu they grew up! And they carry it about to other areas of the world unable
to differentiate “the good, the bad and the ugly”.
xii.
When I bought my first computer, I had “Microsoft Windows 95” as its
pre-installation program from Compaq, the factory that made it. Later on I
learnt that two more windows were already in existence since then, but there
was little I could do about a change. I made the best use of that primary
learning program, even though most of my more informed friends pressurised me
to re-program it.
xiii.
Sooner than later, fluctuations in electric
current in my neighbourhood took its toll on my hard disc, and all I got after
my computer had booted out was; “operating
system, not found”. Truly, that was exactly “experimental neurosis” for
my poor CPU, and it won my sympathy. I took the whole compartment that houses
the hard disc to Lagos ,
parted with a large chunk of my income and had “Microsoft Windows 98” installed!
xiv.
Before that decision, however, I had made
inquiries on the best program that was in the market, for by then two more
windows had been introduced into the computer world! And so it is with every toddler's mind! It is programmed. But unlike
the computer, it cannot be reprogrammed easily. There are always traces of the
original programs, software, on line, Internet (surfed or browsed) and downloaded programs!
xv.
You can begin to appreciate more why parents
and other relevant adults around every new-born must be wise and selective
about what the baby sees, hears, tastes, feels or touches within the first five
years of life! Do I need to explain an idiom? No! It is never done in my
culture. You just have to grow up to unravel the nuggets of wisdom wrapped in
an idiom! Do so now!
xvi.
The ‘icons, shortcuts, mouse’ and other
methods of recognising and inserting good and bad behaviour patterns in the
infant, graduates into more sophistication as it learns to walk, talk, read,
listen to radio/ tape recorders and watch television programs!
xvii. Therefore,
bringing up a balanced and well-groomed teenager is not a simple task.
Unfortunately that is exactly what obtains in most homes! Parents think that
all they need do is; feed the baby well, take it hospital, Nursery school or
Sunday service. They are as wrong as they can ever be in life!
xviii.
And such parents are the first to exclaim, “
What’s wrong with junior? Why is this child behaving abnormally? During my
teenage years, I never did things like these? What is wrong with children of
nowadays? I cannot exhaust the list of embarrassing statements I have heard!
xix.
For an answer, I have only this “They had
immature parents who ignored them early in life, but were busy chasing money,
and those parents are delinquents!” We
over-emphasise what is trivial, magnify or over-prioritise that which does not
build good human relationships but in the same vein neglect our children’s
proper upbringing.
xx.
Please rethink after reading this chapter.
The greatest investment you can ever make in life is training your child
properly, not a fat bank account or landed properties scattered all over the
world! Many homes have no children but you are toying with the fruits of love
Nature has bountifully gracefully given to you!
CHAPTER 6
OF BECOMING A
GREAT SOUL
i.
Everything
that lives and possesses immanent motion has a soul! Do you want a debate on
that? Simple, tell me any invention of man that is self- propelled? The nearest
we have come to that, is the novel solar system whereby some prototypes of
electrical machines are energised by the power of the sun. This would
definitely benefit those living in the tropics and that explains why European
scientists are dragging their feet over their mass production!
ii.
But what are
our so-called professors in engineering waiting for? When shall all those
warming academic stools in our glorified universities in the tropics compete
with their counterparts? In order not to derail, lets focus on how one can
aspire to and eventually become a great soul worthy of mention after one's
lifespan on earth!
iii.
What or who
is a great soul? To answer that question let us consider some great statements
that have changed the course of man's history and identify those who made them;
- “The
moment the slave resolves that he will no longer be a slave, his fetters fall.
He frees himself and shows the way to others. Freedom and slavery are
mental states.” Guess who made that everlasting statement!
iv.
“ If we are
to achieve a richer culture, rich in contrasting values, we must recognise the
whole gamut of human potentialities, and so weave a less arbitrary social
fabric, one in which each diverse human gift will find a fitting place.” I hope you will get this very easily, can you?
v.
“ I submit
that an individual who breaks an unjust law that his conscience tells him is
unjust, and who willingly accepts the penalty of imprisonment in order to
arouse the conscience of the community over its injustice, is in reality
expressing the highest respect for law.”
vi.
Have you
attempted to find the Great Souls that made those watersheds of eternal truths?
If not, you need the services of a historian of repute to unravel their
identities! Let me give you some more clues.
vii.
Add this to
the first quotation; --– A diminutive
man possessed of an indomitable will, who not only secured national
independence for his native land, but also introduced to world politics a
concept of active, nonviolent civil disobedience an idea whose myriad
applications have only begun to be explored. Have you remembered him by
now?
viii.
Add this to
the second quotation; --As an
anthropologist, she advocated progressive social action, as is evident in one
of her most famous quotes: “ Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful,
committed citizens can change the world; indeed it’s the only thing that ever
has.”
ix.
Add this to
the third quotation; -- When he was in
jail, he wrote, “ I am in Birmingham
because injustice is here”, and then added this to his fellow clergymen…
“Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.”
x.
If by now you
have not guessed anyone of the three Great Souls correctly, then stop reading
this Kenezian Ethics, for it will do you no good! You need to refine your
thoughts, enlarge your heart, begin to learn new ideas about humanitarian
principles and a little more from history books!
xi.
Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi, also known as Mahatma (Great
Soul) wrote the first one in 1949, in his book: NON-VIOLENCE IN PEACE AND
WAR. He is today regarded as the greatest revolutionary of the century. He has
many disciples, to date, including this author!
xii.
Margaret Mead, while popularising anthropology through her field studies on the
cultures of New Guinea and Samoa , wrote the second quotation in 1935, in her
classic: “SEX AND TEMPERAMENT IN THREE PRIMITIVE SOCIETIES.” She argued that
culture and society, not biological inheritance, determine individual
character. The idea disarmed theorists who asserted that personality and
intelligence, like the color of skin, stemmed from biology, and it discredited
arguments that supported race-based policies of segregation.
xiii.
Martin Luther King, Jnr. wrote the third quotation in a book compiled from the letters he wrote
on scraps of paper and smuggled out from prison cell in 1963, entitled: “ LETTER FROM BIRMINGHAM JAIL.” The letters
were mainly addressed to his critics in the clergy who opposed his civil rights
marches.
xiv.
King credited
Indian leader Mohandas Gandhi for the non-violent methods of civil disobedience
he used against unjust laws. In subsequent years before his assassination in
1968, King – against much resistance – led the drive toward civil rights
legislation while promoting peaceful civil disobedience as a universal method
of demanding social and economic justice.
xv.
Have you
learnt any veritable lessons from those quotes of Great Souls? I deliberately
chose from three different cultures and from both sexes, to assert that great
minds exist in most men and women of great repute! You too, can become a beacon
of light in this present life and a source of inspiration after death!
xvi.
A single
voice can change the world! Whether the voice describes a new scientific
theory, tells the stories of a culture, or speaks for a previously voiceless
group of people! It can reach across national borders and across time to
influence a wider world and transform the world that follows.
xvii.
That voice
could be yours. Start today to have universal thoughts that will benefit the
whole humanity. Yes, that’s the way all Great Souls began! Influential thinkers
perform such feats! You too, can become a Great Soul!!
xviii.
The twentieth
century is nearing an end. Powerful ideas in physical and medical sciences,
arts and humanities, politics and religion have changed our social
relationships for better or for worse! Don’t sit on the fence. Choose a role
model today and begin to emulate him or her!
xix.
Some great
minds have altered humanity, increased understanding between individuals and
cultures, and helped to define our present world for good or for bad. Nothing
ever remains the same always. Change is a natural law that we all must obey at
all times!
xx.
Do you want
to make history? Today is your genesis! Seize the opportunity of this moment.
Let this meditation on becoming a Great Soul be the impetus that you have been
waiting for! Don’t procrastinate! It is a lazy man’s excuse!
DO SOMETHING POSITIVE FROM NOW ONWARDS
Email me at saintkenez@yahoo.co.uk
OR agunabu1948@gmail.com
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CHAPTER 7
EIGHT AGES OF
MAN
i Now we shall consult another expert on the
development of the toddler. How does the infant acquire some personality
traits? In other words, how did you become the individual you are today with
all your peculiar mannerisms? What roles did your parents and relevant others
play in the shaping your present personality traits?
ii Erik Homburger Erikson, while practising
at the Centre for the Advanced Study in the Behavioural Sciences, Stanford , California
in March 1963 wrote: “CHILDHOOD AND
SOCIETY”, a Pelican Book, that was the result of more than ten years of
clinical observations of two American Indian tribes.
iii
On the front cover he summarised his work thus: “ While tribes and nations, in many intuitive ways, use child training to
the end of gaining their particular form of mature human identity, their unique
version of integrity, they are and remain, beset by the irrational fears which
stem from the very state of childhood which they exploited in their specific
ways.”
iv Professor Erikson is a Freudian. Using a
number of fascinating case histories as springboards for theoretical
discussions of the formative years of childhood, he reveals human life as a
delicate balance between bodily, mental, and social influences in the
masterpiece!
v.
You just have
to locate that handy book and read it in a hurry, in order to follow my
conclusions here! The title of our chapter is lifted from his book and
coincidentally it is also a chapter seven! I can only summarise them here, and
my précis may not convey all the information you need. So, find it and read
it!
vi.
The first age
of man, Erikson labelled as; “Basic Trust versus Basic Mistrust” which
refers to the relaxation the infant feels with parental provision of his basic
survival needs. “The first demonstration
of social trust in the baby is the ease of his feeding, the depth of his sleep,
the relaxation of his bowels. The experience of a mutual regulation of his
increasingly receptive capacities, with the maternal techniques of provision
gradually helps him to balance the discomfort caused by the immaturity of
homeostasis with which he was born”.
vii.
In practice,
the infant’s first social achievement, then, is his willingness to let the
mother out of sight without undue anxiety or rage, because she has become an
inner certainty as well as an outer predictability. Maternal bonds formed by
long and regular breastfeeding ensures this! Such consistency, continuity, and
sameness of experience provide a rudimentary sense of ego identity. The lesson to learn from that analysis is that
parents should take the blame if their children do not trust anyone in later
life! Build confidence in your little infants today!!
viii.
The next age
is labelled: “Autonomy versus Shame & Doubt” which has to do
with locomotion. Maturation of the limbs and the ability to move around brings
in its wake anxiety! Muscular maturation sets the stage for experimentation
with two simultaneous sets of social modalities; their basic conflicts can lead
in the end to either hostile or benign expectations and attitudes. These are
very important facts which parents neglect either due to ignorance or
dereliction of duties towards new-borns that are priceless gifts from Mother
Nature!
ix.
“Thus, to hold can become as destructive and
cruel as retaining or restraining, and it can become a pattern of care: to have
and to hold! To let go, too, can turn into an inimical letting loose of
destructive forces, or it can become a relaxed “to let pass” and “to let be”.
In other words, we need to realise that self-confidence and independence
depends on how much autonomy we allow our children in early life. Allow them to
be on their own. Don’t over-protect nor pamper your children. When they fall
down, allow them to get up by themselves!
x.
The age of “Initiative
versus Guilt” follows, which Erikson describes as the most important
factor in morality development! There is in every child at every stage a new
miracle of vigorous unfolding, which constitutes a New Hope and a New Responsibility for all.
Such is the sense and the pervading quality of initiative.
xi.
The criteria
for all these senses and qualities are the same: a crisis, more or less beset
with fumbling and fear, is resolved, in that the child suddenly seems to “grow
together” both in his person and in his body. He appears “more himself”, more
loving, relaxed and brighter in his judgement, more activated and activating.
xii.
He is in free
possession of a surplus of energy, which permits him to forget failures quickly
and to approach what seems desirable (even if it also seems uncertain and even
dangerous) with undiminished and more accurate direction. Initiative adds to
autonomy the quality of undertaking, planning and “attacking” a task for the
sake of being active and on the move, where before self-will, more often than
not, inspires acts of defiance or, at any rate, protested independence!
xiii.
The point for
all adults around growing children to note, is that we must permit freedom to
infants to makes mistakes, bear the consequences for their indiscretions and
thereby learn to obey norms and mores on their own initiative rather than to
please anyone! Does this make any sense to you? Moral codes must be rationalised
and internalised on their own, not by religious or parental coercion!
xiv.
The next age is that of “Industry versus
Inferiority”, wherein Erikson next introduces the genesis of laxity,
truancy and malingering. The last stage is the foundation of initiative, thus
the inner stage seems all set for “entrance into life”, except that life must
first be school life, whether school is in a field or a jungle or a classroom!
The child must forget past hopes and wishes while his exuberant imagination is
tamed and harnessed to the laws of impersonal things – even the three Rs!
xv.
With the
oncoming latency period, the normally advanced child forgets, or rather
sublimates, the necessity to “make” people by direct attack or to become a papa
or a mama in a hurry! S/he now learns to win recognition by producing things,
becomes ready to apply her/himself to given skills and tasks, which go far
beyond the mere playful expression of her/his sexual organ's modes of pleasure
in the function of his limbs.
xvi.
The growing
child or teenager now develops a sense of industry – i.e., s/he adjusts
her/himself to the inorganic laws of the tool world. S/he can become an eager
and absorbed unit of a productive situation, and to bring it to completion is
an aim/objective, which gradually supersedes the whims and wishes of play! A
successful adjustment results in a well-balanced adult! So, guide your kids to
achieve independence and industry in later life and you would have scored a
100% as good and dutiful parent!!!
xvii.
The fifth
age, Erikson called “Identity versus Role Confusion” which simply states
what is happening as the teenager evolves into an adolescent. With the
establishment of a good initial relationship to the world of skills and tools,
and with the advent of puberty, childhood proper comes to an end. Youth begins!
xviii.
With the
maturation of their gonads; menarche in females and wet dreams in males, they
are now primarily concerned with what they appear to be in the eyes of others
as compared with what they feel they are, and also with the question of how to
connect the roles and skills cultivated earlier with the occupational
prototypes of the day!
xix.
The
integration now taking place in the form of ego identity is, as pointed out
earlier, more than the sum of the childhood identifications. It is the accrued
experience of the ego's ability to integrate all identifications with the
vicissitudes of the libido, with the aptitudes developed out of endowment and
with the opportunities offered in social roles!
xx.
The danger of
this stage is role confusion! Where
this is based on a strong previous doubt as to one's sexual identity,
delinquency and/or outright psychotic episodes are not uncommon! But when
properly resolved and to keep themselves together, they temporarily over
identify, to the point of apparent complete loss of identity, with heroes of
cliques and crowds!
xxi.
This
initiates the stage of “falling in love”, which is by no means entirely, or
even primarily, a sexual matter – except where the mores demand it. To a considerable extent, adolescent love is an
attempt to arrive at a definition of one's identity by projecting one's
diffused ego-image on another and by seeing it thus reflected and gradually
clarified. This is why; so much of young love is conversation and an over-doze
of chattering spiced with giggles!
xxii.
“Intimacy versus Isolation” is the next age of man,
according to Professor Erik Erikson! The young adult, emerging from the search
for and the insistence on identity, is eager and willing to fuse his identity
with that of others. S/he is ready for intimacy, that is, the capacity to
commit her/himself to concrete affiliations and partnerships and to develop the
ethical strength to abide by such commitments, even though they may call for
significant sacrifices and compromises.
xxiii.
The physical body and the ego must
now become masters of the organ modes (instinctual energies)
and of the nuclear conflicts (sexual
urges), in order to be able to face the fear of ego loss (inferiority
complex) in situations which call for self-abandon (self denial): in the
solidarity of close affiliations, in orgasms and sexual unions, in close
friendship and in physical combat, in experiences of inspiration by teachers
and of intuition from the recesses of the self!
xxiv.
The avoidance of such experiences because of
fear of ego-loss may lead to a deep sense of isolation and consequent
self-absorption. These are the predisposing factors that lead to masturbation,
homosexuality and lesbianism! Be observant and rescue your little ones from
these abnormalities early in life! Display genuine heterosexual relationships
whenever you and your spouse are in front of them!
xxv.The seventh age of man then, is “Generativity versus Stagnation”,
a term that encompasses the evolutionary development that has made man the
teaching and instituting, as well as the learning animal. Generativity, then,
is primarily the concern in establishing and guiding the next generation of
human beings, although there are individuals who, through misfortune or because
of special and genuine gifts in other directions, do not apply this drive to
their own offspring.
xxvi.
Generativity
thus is an essential on the psychosexual as well as on the psychosocial
schedule. Where such enrichment fails altogether, regression to an obsessive
need for pseudo-intimacy takes place, often with a pervading sense of
stagnation and personal impoverishment. This is the predisposing factor for the
variety of abnormal sexual behaviour mentioned earlier! In fact, some young
parents suffer from the retardation of the ability to develop this stage!
xxvii.
And finally,
we arrive at the last age of man; “Ego integrity versus
Despair”, which the learned professor describes thus; “Only in him who in some way has taken care
of things and people and has adapted her/himself to the triumphs and
disappointments adherent to being, the originator of others or the generator of
products and ideas – only in him/her may gradually ripen the fruits of these
seven stages”.
xxviii.
“It is the ego's
accrued assurance of its proclivity for order and meaning. It is a post-narcissistic
love of the human ego – not of the self – as an experience which conveys some
world order and spiritual sense, no matter how dearly paid for! It is the
acceptance of one's one and only life cycle as something that had to be and
that, by necessity, permitted of no substitutions: it thus means a new, a
different love of one's parents” affirms Erikson!
xxix.
“The lack or loss of this accrued ego integration is
signified by fear of death: the one and only life cycle is not accepted as the
ultimate of life. Despair expresses the feeling that the time is now short, too
short for the attempt to start another life and to try out alternative roads to
integrity! Disgust hides despair, if often only in form of a thousand little
disgusts which do not add up to one big remorse”, concludes our learned professor!”
xxx.
My dear
reader, with the wisdom gained here, you can now assert that it is not religion
that makes one feel guilty, develop into a sex pervert and/or become a recluse!
Modern man has to learn to de-emphasise scruples induced by religious
injunctions and accept his responsibility for personal failures in life! If
that is the only lesson you have learnt from this chapter, you are a wise
person!! Go ahead and implement that principle in all your dealings in life!
SPACE FOR PERSONAL NOTES
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CHAPTER 8:
MORAL DEVELOPMENT IN CHILDREN
i Another recent research scientist that studied childhood in detail is
Lawrence Kohlberghas, an American psychologist, who stated that as we grew up
each one of us passed six developmental stages of morality! He carefully
monitored and documented how infants develop the sense of right and wrong. He
is a current scientist, and we can learn a lot from his research!
ii Stage one, he labelled; PRE-MORAL , here moral development is essentially at the pre-moral level. Children at this stage
behave properly simply to avoid punishment. They show an unquestioning
deference to power /authority, moreover, the physical consequences of any
action determine its goodness or badness for the child.
iii. Stage two, is INSTRUMENTAL-HEDONISTIC,
morality
here is like a marketable commodity for the teenager. What is considered right
is primarily what is good for the child himself; occasionally, the satisfaction
of other’s needs is a factor, but the outlook of these persons is essentially
an instrumental-hedonistic one; e.g. ‘You scratch my back, I scratch yours.’
iv. Stage three, is PEER GROUP APPROVAL; morality is what is approved by others. Peer group satisfaction
gradually replaces parent’s approval. At this level the child is able to take
the role of others, he can understand what will please them and tries to gain
recognition as “the good child”.
v. Stage four; The LAW–AND–ORDER stage. Here, children’s
respect for authority, whether parents, teachers, policemen, priests or pastor
originates in anticipation of honour and avoidance of dishonour. The
orientation is to do one’s duty, obey fixed rules and maintain the social
order.
vi. Stage five; AUTONOMY, principally behaviour is
based on what is right or wrong, decisions are made on what is proper or
improper on the basis of contracts, social or personal at the stage.
Adolescents are able to take into account the viewpoint of society in general
or play the roles of adults.
vii. Stage six; is the UNIVERSAL ETHICAL PRINCIPLE orientation.
According to Kohlberg, only Jesus Christ, Mahatma Gandhi and Martin Luther King
jnr. have displayed in their lives; respect for the rights and dignity of their
fellow human beings and had been concerned that this mutual respect becomes a
universal law!
viii. From the information garnered from Lawrence Kohlberghas, most of
us humans are still struggling to graduate from the third stage of moral
development and this accounts for so many puerile and purposeless leaders all
over the globe!
ix. The second stage of moral development fits what we observe in Third World countries, whereas, only a few of the
so-called Fist and Second world country are fixated at the third stage.
x. In INTEGRATIONAL SPIRITAN
MOVEMENT. (I.S.M.),
the target of each member is to reach the sixth stage within ten years
of joining the fellowship. Any one who lags behind will be asked to resign
his/her membership! It is a sure proof that such a one is neither rational nor
scientific and we detest such regressive behaviour!
xi. If as scientists or rationalists we are agreed that only AN UNMOVED
MOVER, or AN UNCUSED CAUSER was responsible for existence, the universe and
life; then we are brothers and sisters with equal rights, privileges and
responsibilities to one another.
xii. Some philosophers prefer the term ‘The Summum Bonuum’ but we are
not restricting our discussion to languages that are cumbersome for some to
master. ‘The Supreme Good’ is neither an idiomatic translation nor an adequate
literal translation! More over both are subject to myopic misrepresentations as
what is ‘good’ to one person or culture may be ‘bad’ to another, for example,
polygamy whether polyandry or polygyny!
xiii. At this point it might be fundamental to summarise what Gestalt
Therapy has to offer! The mainstay or the notion here is that people are born wonderful, happy
creatures and would remain that was if allowed to grow up naturally.
xiv. It is the society one grows up in which begins to influence us as
children, that sometimes pushes us onto the wrong track. Our problems occur
when we absorb other people’s value-judgements, like our parents, siblings,
uncles, aunts, teachers, religious or political leaders.
xv. When these value-judgements are in sharp contrast to our own real
feelings, life-long conflicts arise. We often experience these conflicts as
self-disapproval for own genuine feelings and rather impose the opinions of our
culture or religion!
xvi. That alone spells the beginning of the end. So in I.S.M. it is
your duty to identify these impositions and ratify them based on the divine
natural laws the Almighty Creator put in the universe. This is the basic theory
and practice of Kenezianism
xvii. Finding them is easy. Look inwards and find the natural laws
written boldly in your heart. The little voice that speaks to you anytime you
are about to violate the natural laws are international and non-partisan. What
your parents and culture tried to do was only to stifle it and imprint what
they thought would be good for you!
xviii. You and you are the final arbiter in what you think, decide and
implement! No one can imprison your mind, thoughts, and words. Yes, no one can
bend your will –power if you are resolute. Are you going to be the driver in
the seat of your vehicle (your material body) or are you going to be a
passenger? This and only this is the golden price ISM demands of you, and
thereafter you can gain eternal freedom!
xix In
Kenezianism, only One True God exists, namely;
GOD,THE ALMIGHTY CREATOR! He initiated initiates and will forever
initiate all thoughts, words and actions that are global, eternal and
metaphysical in all beings, animate as well as inanimate. He is the Only One
that deserves our unalloyed worship, praise, honour and adoration!
xxi.
Every other being that ever existed, exists or will ever
exist, does so at His pleasure and comes under His Natural and Eternal Laws
that govern all macrocosms and microcosms He created! Hence every other great
religious leader, dead or alive, those acclaimed as divine prophets, gurus,
saviours or mystics are all classified as ‘lords’.
xxii.
Therefore
Shankara & Ramanuja, K’ung Ch’iu (Confucius), Siddhartha Guatama (Buddha),
Socrates, Plato, Aristotle, Noah, Abraham, Moses, Joshua, David, Solomon, John
the Baptist, Jesus the Christ, Peter and/or Paul the apostles, Mohammed the
Prophet, Mahatma Gandhi, Martin Luther King, Sa’i Baba and/or any other
prominent moralist must be referred to only as ‘Lords’!
xxiii.
None of them
or anyone else that may come hereafter is near to or co-equal with Our Almighty
Father, who created and sustains everything in existence! This knowledge and
its eternal acceptance as the stepping stone to all educational programmes are
the beginning of wisdom for scientists of all generations, as well as for all
shades of religious affiliations!
xxiv.
Our great
grandfathers knew that much! So why did some fanatics deify their heroes and
idolised what was created and finite at any stage of its material/physical
existence in this universe? Ignorance is the one and only correct answer!
xxv.
None of these
famous religious leaders was there at the dawn of creations. Read the books
credited to Job, Solomon, Issaiah, Sirach, Matthew, Mark, Luke and John. None
of these authors suggested anything like that! No, not even the great Patriarch
Moses who founded Judaism was ever credited with dualising the Godhead, not to
mention Christians tripling it!
xxvi.
Even the
great apostle of the gentiles, Saul of Tarsus, later called Paul after his
miraculous conversion, emphatically states that the Almighty God is One and has
no equal or deputy! Read more of this in his first letter to his loyal converts
at Corinthians, Chapter 8 verses 1-6. Moses did a better job in the whole of
his book named EXODUS!
xxvii.
So let us all
stop this buffoonery of attributing equality in personhood to anything else! It
is not only idolatrous but sacrilegious and irrational! It breeds fanaticism,
segregation, partisanship and finally syncretism. It is the harbinger of
all-religious differences, schisms, feuds and wars!
xxviii.
The world of
science, medicine and electronics have demonstrated that all human beings can
believe, learn and accept certain universal ways of doing things! This is
because these areas of knowledge are impartial, objective and devoid of
sentimental attachment or any form of socio-political patronage. We hold
international conferences on most departments of academics and arrive at
world-wide principles and standards, so why not in religion?
xxix.
The answer is simple; Religion is constructed
on the shifting sands of emotions, politics and hero-worships. These are
inimical to modern man. And the sooner we recognised it and addressed it, the
better for our generation! That is all that I.S.M. stands for. Join us today,
and provide the human race with a scientifically oriented spiritual fellowship
where all are brothers and sisters. Thank you and God bless everyone!
xxx.
*** Christian fanatics should read Matt.19: 16 -30
or Mk.10: 17 -31 or again Lk.18: 18 -30,and thereafter recognise that it was
Saul of Tarsus that deified Jesus at Philippians 2: 6 –11;realising that Is.45:
23 given as a foot reference does not confirm nor corroborate that deification!
It was a Pauline error, which has diverted the true worship of the only Creator
- Almighty God! So also did the Doctrine of Holy Trinity, which was copied,
from Hindu religion and from Greco-Roman mythology!
CHAPTER 9:
CONTROVERSY CAUSED BY RELIGIONS
i My dear reader, can I now call you a
disciple? It will help me avoid the error of many religionists who unwittingly
masculinise all their injunctions with “he, his, himself, man” as if only males
are moralistic! In today’s world, women are more religiously minded than men,
yet many preachers and evangelists still deliver their sermons as if the
womenfolk were not around!
ii.
My dear
disciple, have you ever noticed the competition among various churches and
ministries around where you live? Would there be so much strife, slandering,
castigation and/or outright condemnation of each other if leaders of these
groups really understood the existential meaning of religion?
iii.
The true
meaning of the term “religion” is “ to bind oneself to doing something
willy-nilly”. Whether it is the belief in or the worship of gods or a God, as
the dictionaries would have us believe, the word originally came from the Latin
root “religere” which literally
translates to “to bind”, as if tied
with a rope. Its origin was derogatory. It was meant to castigate the early
Christians whom Nero ‘the mad emperor’ tied to stakes and made sport of, by
allowing lions to tear their bodies apart while the victims screamed in pains!
iv.
Read
historical writings about how the early Christians were martyred and you will
even realise that today we have very little faith. Where is the LOVE that these
early Christians demonstrated? Where is ‘the sharing all their belongings among
themselves’ that Chapter 4 verses 32 –37 of the Acts of the Apostles credited
them with? When shall the present crowd of hypnotised fanatics realize that
they are being taken for a ride by ‘a brood of vipers’ or demonic preachers,
‘whose only god is their belly’ as Jesus, the Christ referred to them in the
Christian bible? Hypocrisy has elevated to an art that yields millions for
these half-baked charlatans and school dropouts!
v.
We have lost
true love and religious piety that to greed, selfishness, avarice, pride and
the monetisation or commercialisation of religious worship, crusades and other
clandestine activities, all in the name of religion! While these pastors smile
to the banks, their followers wallow in penury, starvation and ignorance! Did
Christ or any other religious leader in history ever preach competition,
hatred, calumny, gossiping, slandering and a myriad of other divisive behaviour
that characterise today’s mode of pecuniary evangelisation antics?
vi.
So, my dear
disciple, can you now see the plan of the Evil One that was predicted in the
Bible, the Anti-Christ and his devilish strategy? Don’t ever be caught up in
their materialistic religious deceptions! Free yourself today. Rationalise what
you hear, choose the one that satisfies international ethics, as all altruistic
moralists would enjoin us. This is the scientific age, not the early or
prehistoric ages when everything was based on introspective vituperations or
theological speculations of self-proclaimed visionaries. Logical arguments and
satisfactory conclusions should be your guidelines in religious activities, not
emotions!
vii.
If you have
not acquired any logical skills, then now is the best time to learn the basics
of scientific reasoning. It is the solution to so many differences of opinions
in life. I encourage you to be rational in your thinking, discussions and
actions from now on. You will be surprised by the amount of freedom you will
feel. Take time to evaluate all you have accepted from childhood as truths
without having had neither the chance nor the capability to reason them out by
then! Free yourself from self-imprisonment! Throw away those dogmatic and
doctrinal shackles that have held you hostage for so many years.
viii.
Witness these
practical samples of Kenezian wisdom: everyone uses telephone, whether cellular
or non- cellular, these days without quarrelling over who invented it; no
arguments arise from the use of computers or the internet; and so does
transportation either by land, sea or air! None of these has ever brought any
strife neither between any religious groups nor between nationalities of
various nomenclatures. Why does religion generate so much strife and
disagreements? The answer is very simple! It operates on the level of
irrational emotions; what appeals to one group of worshippers do not appeal to
others, because they are primarily based on personal opinions of their leaders.
Moreover the human mind is so egocentric, impressionistic and parochial! It
dichotomises what naturally does not need any divisions, segregations or compartmentalisations.
ix.
Check this one out. Will two medical doctors
quarrel over the treatment of headaches or bruises or fractures? No, is the
natural answer. But often we do not realize why! That is exactly where
Kenezianism comes in as a science of morals that cuts across national,
political and religious boundaries. It reduces every concept about the
supernatural to logic, facts, data and practical knowledge that are independent
of its originator’s personal opinions. The concepts in Kenezianism are natural
phenomena that are replicable in any part of the world, irrespective of the
literacy level of its practitioner!
x.
An example
will demonstrate its universality. In Kenezianism, all human beings are
accepted as brothers and sisters for the mere scientific fact that we have
similar blood groupings, identical anatomy, comparable physiology and
heterosexual behavioural patterns! The proofs are there for everyone to see and
accept rationally, not emotionally nor parochially! We intermarry; blacks,
whites, and yellows interchangeably; and produce children not apes. And these
off springs of ours are neither ethnocentric at birth nor apartheid in social
relationships until their parents introduce them to stereotypic child-rearing
practices and segregationist education! This Gestalt Therapy deals with. The
avid reader can explore it!
xi.
The principle
of Kenezianism abhors such, and will not be dragged into such mundane
socio-political balderdash or any religious buffoonery! Its mission statement
spells that out in the KENEZIAN CREED and the LETTER TO ALL EDUCATIONISTS. Read
them over and over. Rationalise their universal utility for a more equitable
and egalitarian world government! If you cannot accept nor internalise the
concept therein, drop this book here and now and never border to read any other
publications of the Kenezians! It is very essential that we abrogate ethnic,
racial, status and religio-cultural divisions in our world of today that has
become a global village. The way we fight pandemics and terrorism should serve
us well in socio-political dimensions also! We must genuinely be our brothers’
keepers!
xii.
The literacy
level of many adherents of various religious groups is very low. Add to this,
the reluctance of human beings to adjust quickly to changes, and then you will
better appreciate why many wallow in ignorance. Many do not like to explore
unknown areas of knowledge in their short life spans. Most accept the religion
they were born into, swallow all their parental injunctions and cap them all
with the dogmas/doctrines manufactured by their myopic leaders. Thus we have
religious wars, crusades and jihads today, that culminate in terrorism of
varying magnitudes; the highest of which was the now notorious “September 11th
of U.S.A. ”
xiii.
When shall we ever learn? Did Confucius,
Zoroaster, Buddha, Jesus or Mohammed ever preach syncretism? The answer is an
affirmative NO! Only Moses, due to depersonalisation syndromes emanating from
years of the enslavement of his kith and kin in Egypt and his personal refugee
status in Midian before he was recalled to lead them out, inadvertently
introduced segregationist concepts encapsulated in the Mosaic laws of ‘clean
and unclean’ religious injunctions that culminated in ‘the Jew and the Gentile’
racist policies Chris failed to address succinctly before he was sacrificed.
xiv.
As far as we
are concerned in Kenezianism, that was a costly price for every religious
leader who fails to resolve ethnic issues in his sermons. Did he reconcile the
descendants of Esau, Ishmael and Jacob? No! Did he identify with the
Samaritans, Greek or other ‘Gentile’ citizens of his epoch? No! Did he
integrate the Roman Rulers of his time with his ethnic group? No! There were
many other leaders, religious and/or political, in history that paid for the
same negligence. The concept that he died for everyone is not only obsolete but
also idiosyncratic and outrageously fanatical, for up till now, present Jews
and previous ones never acknowledged that idea. To-date, the Jewish race is
still expecting a Saviour! It was Saul of Tarsus who marketed the idea, as he
was making reparations for murdering Stephen and many early followers that he
had dispatched to impromptu graves!
xv.
The truth
will always surface no matter for how long it is buried. Let us learn to
apportion blame wherever and whenever they are due. Hero worship never pays
lasting dividends. Idolising a great leader detracts from total loyalty and the
true worship we owe to the Almighty Father, the Indisputable Creator of the
universe and all of us; human beings, plants, animals, animate microcosms and
other inanimate macrocosms. It is time to proclaim the true Unitarian Godhead!
Trinitarians are idolaters who copied from the ancient symbols of the religions
of the Far East and those of Egyptian
mythology!
xvi.
Pragmatism,
Rationalism and Existentialism (P.R.E) remain the tripod on which Kenezianism
rests! Subject every novel idea you learn, to the acid test of satisfying those
‘Three Kings’ and if it passes, then internalise and practise it in your daily
life. If not, vomit it, for it is a counterfeit and therefore it is
anti-thetical to the present scientific age of man; ‘the Homo sapiens’! You are
hereby appointed a judge of all our write-ups that do not meet those criteria,
namely PRE. In addition, every
injunction of Kenezianism must be people oriented, meaning that it must be
truly humanitarian in all ramifications; thus giving us the formula; k= (ica / pre) hapo, where ‘k’ is same as Kenezianism, ‘ica’ equates to; ideas, communication
& actions, ‘pre’ represents the three
kings just mentioned above, whereas ‘hapo’
stands for; humanitarian and people oriented! Ask a mathematician to explain
the rest to you, while we proceed to other pressing fundamentals.
xvii.
Whereas other spiritual organisations
emphasise ‘beliefs-systems’and ‘dogmas/doctrines’ Kenezianism emphatically
encourages you to know, experiment and prove beyond every reasonable doubt,
every construct we propose to you for a lucid evaluation that can formulate the
building blocks for an all-embracive world government.
We do not believe that God exists; rather we know that HE/SHE/IT exists
irrespective of our acceptance or otherwise of the great truth! God is the ONE
and ONLY GODHEAD that is and has no need for a Trinitarian explanation. We
prefer to refer to this godhead as ‘The Almighty Creator’ at all times and use
the pronoun ‘IT’ as there is no proof that IT is either male or female!! And as
the Prime Mover of all else that moves, it can manifest as sound, light, energy
and even as a physical entity!
xviii.
The ambition
of all Kenezians is to internationalise ‘obedience to all natural and eternal
laws as the bedrock of a world spiritual fellowship of realists and/or
scientists not a congregation of theologians, fanatics nor religionists. There
are many international religions already existing in the scientific community,
like the FIFA, OLYMPIC COMMITTEE, the WCC, the ICRC or even the latest and most
popular religion as at now; the internet (http/www.org) to mention but a few,
with dedicated adherents from all walks of life, esoteric/mystical sects and a
variety of mundane/fanatical fraternities or denominations that we can
ill-afford to increase the number. Rather, we crave to stand in the gaps to
bridge the sentimental divides and knock down the perennial walls of differences
in doctrinal conflicts.
xix.
We know that
it is possible to get all intelligent people to agree to and share an
international concept provided it appeals to reason and arrests the interest of
literate citizens of the global community who feel concerned. Our integrational
spiritual fellowship, hereafter referred to as ISF, is based on
scientific principles that obey all natural laws in creation. You, too, can
contribute your altruistic quota to the consolidation of this brand of
interdisciplinary, inter-racial and inter-devotional organisation. Any bright
formulation is welcome provided it meets the basic requirements stated above as
summarised by our scientific formula.
xx.
You
may refer to us as the UNAID, UNICEF, UNO or WHO of all known, registered and
yet to be registered religions. We are, in a real sense, the meeting/melting
point of all belief-systems. Every rationalist is welcome! If you appreciate
what we stand for, communicate with us today. Don’t postpone or procrastinate.
And your life
will be enriched beyond your wildest dreams.
YOUR ETERNAL
SELF-FULFILLMENT IS ONLY ONE CLICK AWAY ON ANY INTERNET EXPLORER NEAREST TO YOU
NOW.
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CHAPTER 10:
LECTURES FROM THREE UNIVERSITIES
i We now come to the basics of nature
study. Have you ever observed soldier ants on the march? It will definitely be
difficult for those of us who did not grow up in a rural community or in a
farm! For such persons, their elementary biology textbooks will suffice. All
they need do is revise what they learnt in secondary school about social insects or look up that title in
an encyclopaedia or browse the Internet.
ii.
In either
case, what they will learn is that these small insects are so well organised
that it is a wonder why we, the so-called ‘Homo sapiens sapientes’ are so
disorganised. Why do we need the police force to beat us into line, whereas
these minute insects do not step out of line nor try to do another insect’s
duty?
iii.
They have
specialists for any and every problem they group will ever encounter while they
are on any march. Pity yourself, if you interrupt their movement. By the time
they swarm around you and sink their jaws into your exposed skin area, you will
feel so much pain that next time you will not only fear to cross their path,
but you will dread and avoid any other insects that resemble them! Why?
iv.
These little
creatures have soldier ants with larger mandibles specialised for aggressive
actions against any intruder and their duty it is to fight and protect the
group. And their job ends there. They do not interfere in other duties like
reproductive activities or in feeding the younger ones in the group. We have
copied that much, but do our own soldiers mind their duty only?
v.
There, is an
important lesson for us humans to learn! A little common sense is all that we
need to learn only one trade, specialise in it, be proud of it and not
interfere in other people’s professions! But this rarely happens in the social
organisation of mankind, yet we claim to be ‘the lord of the material
universe’.
vi.
Or shall we
take lectures from another university? This time, from honeybees? Read all you
can about this other social insect that even has a language communicated by a
dance ritual. It is wonderful how minute beings out-class us in organising
their little worlds. They eschew in- fighting. Rather they co-operate so well
that their hives are always peaceful until man, the selfish scavenger intrudes
to harvest where he never sowed, namely their honey that we steal in order to
please our tongues!
vii.
Again, they
are so specialised that only one queen and a king may be found in each
community at a time. Unlike what obtains in our human world, where we fight to
establish supremacy! How many kings, queens, presidents, chairmen/women and
traditional or religious rulers do we have? Are we ready to serve, take orders
and obey even our own constitutions? Yet we pride ourselves as ‘Homo sapiens’!
viii.
Visit web
sites and learn how the honeybee communicates to the members of the hive that
it has found nectar, either nearby or faraway. It is amazing, especially when
one realises that they never learn these things. They are born with the
peculiar knowledge of the waggle or straight dance. Scientists call this
‘species-specific’ behaviour, thereby indicating that they are born with the
information stored in their memory and they must willy-nilly manifest them at
the appropriate developmental stages of their lifecycles.
ix.
The
inquisitive minds will at once want to find out whether human infants have
anything that resembles this. The answer is an affirmative YES! So the next
natural question that follows is what happened to the human infant. You want an
answer? Are you really that inquisitive or you want to behave like your species
of proud apes?
x.
You will have
to wait till we have received tutorials from another university of nature, the
termite colony! You must do yourself this favor. Don’t believe me, nor trust
the information you surf from the Internet. Go out there, into the fields and
have a firsthand experience of these data that biologists have spent years
documenting so as to spoon-feed our infants at schools. That may also explain
to you how and why human beings, are the laziest and craziest veterbrates in
existence.
xi.
The termites
are the greatest engineers in the universe! That you doubt me fades into
insignificance when you compare their anthill, structure weight for weight with
their bodies. Our skyscrapers are nothing wonderful if we recognise that these
minute ants don’t use mechanical machines to assist them in the construction
work, nor do they use building plans scaled and drafted by architects!
xii.
Again, what
happens inside the termite palace is another natural wonder! The social
organisation, though absurdly hierarchical, commands our respect! There is
specialisation, not only in body structures, but also in the roles and duties
each ant plays for the mutual benefit of the community.
xiii.
That,
precisely, is the point I am trying to emphasise. We, humans need to send our
politicians to these anthill universities scattered all over the globe, to
learn public administration! For as long as we allow mediocres to manage the
affairs of any nation all in the name of political patronage, for so long shall
the masses bear the brunt of their bungling of the administrative apparatus of
the state.
xiv.
It does no
one good to function as a Minister of Health with credentials in engineering or
even business administration! I am sorry for developing countries that waste
their little resources by so doing. My
opinion is that they must learn to put square pegs in square holes and round
ones in round holes! They need these tutorials from termites, honeybees and
soldier ants!
xv.
My dear
reader, are you following my trend of meditation? What of in our individual
homes, kindreds and villages? Should fathers, mothers and children not take
notes of lessons from these insects? My emphatic answer is a capital YES! What
a mess is made of family life and peace by parents who throw their weight all
round the place, all in the name of stamping their authority and exacting
immediate obedience from everyone around!
xvi.
Let’s quote
an example to illustrate my point; “Apart from the reproductives, all castes
are sterile and wingless and have whitish bodies, Typically, the workers
constitute the most numerous caste and are the smallest of the adult forms.
Workers build and provision the nest, tend the eggs, and feed and groom all the
other inmates of the community.”
xvii.
“ All species
have soldiers with greatly enlarged heads. The soldiers of certain species are
equipped with huge jaws for defence of the colony; in some species, the
soldiers have long snouts, from which they eject a sticky, poisonous substance
to envelop an enemy and render it helpless.”
xviii.
Do you see
what I mean? They owe their efficiency to dedication to duty despite the fact
that they do not enjoy the basic rights of all other animals, namely the joy of
sexual intercourse. May be I should have said ‘mainly because they do not
indulge in the time-consuming and diversionary sexual copulation’ that is the
genesis of distraction and depravity in the human species. Do you get my gist?
xix.
The rivalry
and competition to attract and please the opposite sex is the bane of all
in-fighting animals on earth, be it in higher or lower creatures, the
unicellular or multicellular forms of all animate beings. In olden days, and in
some cultures to date man-made eunuchs exist and perform their duties more
religiously than our so-called priests and nuns!
xx.
The radical
position being canvassed for by this writer for a wiser society is this: ‘It is
time for selective social engineering, genetical selection and specialisation
of men and women!’ Reproductive activities must be controlled to reduce
defective babies as well as the over -production of a generation of human
beings with a very high load of defective genes! You may scream ‘Tufia-kwa!’ or curse in any other
dialect or language ‘God forbid this!’ But only time will tell whether the
recommendation is completely anathema! For now, most religions of the Far East and the Catholic Church do not think I am
crazy!
TOTAL OBEDIENCE TO NATURAL
LAWS
The true example of the Son
of God, Jesus the Christ!
(Details of this was
discussed in Volume III of ANGELIC VERSES)
·
Of all the
prophets and leaders sent from above to make reparations for the disobedience
of Adam and Eve, one and only one fulfilled the total obedience to God’s laws
in creation, both the natural and the supernatural and so merited being
resurrected by the power of the Creator!
WHAT, WHEN, HOW & WHO BEGAN
THIS GLOBAL
PEACE SEARCH?;
THE PRINCIPLES OF KENEZIANISM
The theory and practice of Kenezianism started in 1970, at the
end of the civil war when its originator Major Kenechukwu Nzeogwu Mbaezue; BA/
6532, of the Degema Strike Force, 12th Commando Brigade, Biafra, returned from
the war front! He felt shattered by the final outcome of the fratricidal
debacle of three years. “Why did we lose the war of survival? Should Nigeria the
aggressor defeat us the victims of their cruel and premeditated pogroms? Of
what use were the prayers to a god that never answered us? Or did our leaders
commit unpardonable war crimes or indulge in sacrilegious absurdities? Is the
Muslim religion more authentic and reliable than Christianity? If yes, then let
us join them and go on pilgrimages to Mecca !”
Finding answers to these existential questions drove the young war veteran
crazy. He could not comprehend how an unjust war ended in favour of the
aggressors. For him it meant that we wasted all our time and youthfulness in
the war fronts praying to the God of Christians! He truly deserved veritable
explanations! He withdrew from all religious engagement for a period of ten
consecutive years, from 1970 to 1980. That gave him enough time to reflect on
some existential questions about all he had learnt from the Christian
missionaries that moulded his early life in the junior and senior seminaries.
There arose the need for him to re-evaluate his belief system, moderate his
scrupulous orientation to social life and thereafter, formulate a realistic
code of conduct that could guarantee his survival in the conflicting world of
the Nigerian society he found himself trapped in! He lived as a war captive for
the next 30 years! Within this period, he practised the detached life of a sad
research scientist reminiscent of the great Austrian monk and geneticist,
MacGregor Mendel. He earned a total of four university degrees that spanned a
period of 15 years, with breaks here and there to assist his eight younger
brothers and sisters, siblings of the same humble family of a school
teacher/catechist! To achieve this, he again joined the armed forces of the
nation he lived as an exile, the fallout of which was that he neatly sandwiched
a military diploma, pjsc, from the Nigerian Air Force in between the four
degrees! A bachelor’s degree in Philosophy, sponsored by the Catholic missionaries
in1970, then another bachelor’s degree in Psychology, self-sponsored and partly
aided by a Federal Government Loans Bursary award in 1975. This loan was later
paid in full after his NYSC, which he served at the Department of Psychiatry,
University College Hospital, Ibadan, and Lambo’s Aro- Village System, Abeokuta
from 1975- 1976! This was followed by a three-year stint as an Air Force
Medical Officer, NAF 759. Upon winning the Anambra State Ph.D. Scholarship
Award in 1977 he resigned in 1979 and later earned a Masters in Clinical
Psychology, from the School of Medicine, University of Benin, in 1982. He
rounded his training with a Doctor of Science degree in Research Psychometrics,
earned by innovative researches in personality evaluation, organisational
psychology and family counselling in 1993! This doctorate degree qualified him
to join the prestigious African
College of Research
Scientists, Addis Ababa
Campus, of which he is now, a Fellow! A rare feat of academic achievement for
anyone to obtain through self-reliance, ingenuity and resourcefulness! For the
next phase of his research/academic life he combined family roles and clinical
duties, churning out psychological tests for guidance/career counselling,
personality evaluation and marriage/family counselling. In the interim he got
married and to date has two boys and a girl, who became the well-deserved
consolation for his long years of ambivalence! Today he is a retired Flight
Lieutenant in private practice as a HUMANISTIC-EXISTENTIAL PSYCHOTHERAPIST. He
still does extensive research in Family Counselling/Therapy, Behaviour Therapy
and Community Medicine. His published psychological tests and books exceed
fifteen, as at the last count. He is a respected authority in Psychometrics, a
Member of the National Association of Clinical Psychologists and the
Founder/Animator of three world-wide NGOs; i. KENEZ HEALTH KLINIK, an
Interdisciplinary Therapeutic Organisation for Family Health, ii. HAPPY FAMILY
NETWORK INTERNATIONAL, an Inter-ethnic NGO for grooming happy families, iii.
INTEGRATIONAL SPIRITAN MOVEMENT, a Spiritual Fellowship for Modern Scientists!
The greatest contribution he has made so far seems to be in the area of family
counselling and existential therapy where he has constructed, validated and
standardised more than thirteen psychological tests for school career guidance,
pre-marital counselling and crises intervention in families that need help! In
addition, he has written nine books covering such areas of knowledge as: social
ethics, theosophy, cosmology, social and community medicine. The manuscripts of
these inspirational works are, in the real sense of the phrase, begging for
funds to print them. Can anyone publish these books so that others may benefit
from the information stashed away in them? His religious involvement in early
life became an asset as this book in moral ethics has turned out to be the best
outcome of his contemplative lifestyle. Below are some of the verses he wrote
that kept him mentally alive and hopeful that his children would have a better
future! You may benefit from reading and practising some of them in your daily
living! There are existential truths rather than theological jargons!
If
only fifty serious minded natural scientists can organise the teeming populations
in every community and nation of this our confused and selfish world to do
these, WE SHALL ENTHRONE A GLOBAL PEACE FOR OUR GLOBAL VILLAGE,
Your Chief
Servant and the Animator International of I S M;
The
Revolutionary Professor of Modern Theosophy
“When two people are angry at each other, there is a distance in their hearts psychologically. To cover the distance, they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the louder they will shout to hear each other through that great distance.
ReplyDeleteWHAT HAPPENS WHEN TWO PEOPLE FALL IN LOVE??
Then the Professor asked,
“What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly. Why? Because their hearts are psychologically close. The distance between them is very small.”
“When they love each other even more, what happens? They don't speak, they only whisper and they even get closer to each other in their love. Finally, they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all.”
He concluded. He was applauded, receiving a standing ovation.”
Then Professor Kenez, the Guest of Honour expertly concurred by adding;
“It is their souls that chose their social relationship in the first place, and then they hear their heart beats rhyme as their love increases and finally the loving souls merge as one needing neither distance nor physical communication.
• That’s why more often than not, love making is silent, and don’t you agree with me. Even among lower animals like dogs that we see often,
THIS IS THE BEST FOR A HEALTHY, SUCCESSFUL AND HAPPY MARRIED LIFE, SO LEARN IT NOW GRADUALLY AS YOU INTERACT IN YOUR YOUTH OR REGRET IT FOR EVER. SO NEXT TIME YOU SHOUT AT A LOVED ONE, KNOW THAT YOU ARE CREATING A DISTANCE BETWEEN YOUR HEART AND THEIR HEART.